April 24, 2014   33 notes   
yuplifeisdandy:

Tatyana Fazlalizadeh discusses her #stoptellingwomentosmile project. #art #project #women #sexualharassment #social #talk #owbx #baltimore (at The Chicken Box)

yuplifeisdandy:

Tatyana Fazlalizadeh discusses her #stoptellingwomentosmile project. #art #project #women #sexualharassment #social #talk #owbx #baltimore (at The Chicken Box)

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April 24, 2014   122,504 notes   

You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.

If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.

The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.

There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?

Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.

This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.

For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.

an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)

HOLY FUCK THE TRUTH.

Can every one of my male followers read this? And please, before you get defensive (“I would never rape anyone!”) keep in mind, women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.

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It’s also just rude and disrespectful to patently ignore what someone has told you regarding their personal space, body, and time. Get a clue.

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I will always reblog this. Always.

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April 24, 2014   238,832 notes   

So let me get this straight:

dink-182:

hungrylikethewolfie:

daisyunderthestars:

People are boycotting Kraft just because of this one ad

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no one

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these ones?

Wow, when you put it that way it almost seems like we live in a rampantly sexist, misogynistic, and hypocritical society.

Yes we do my friend. Yes we do.

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April 24, 2014   109 notes   
nym-pseudo:

My stoptellingwomentosmile stickers arrived! Passing them round to all my favourite ladies.
Favourite bit: the address on the envelope was handwritten. I love it when the world feels a bit smaller.

nym-pseudo:

My stoptellingwomentosmile stickers arrived! Passing them round to all my favourite ladies.

Favourite bit: the address on the envelope was handwritten. I love it when the world feels a bit smaller.

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April 24, 2014   24,688 notes   
ilovecharts:

Hours Worked On Minimum Wage In Order To Pay For One University Credit Hour

ilovecharts:

Hours Worked On Minimum Wage In Order To Pay For One University Credit Hour

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April 23, 2014   3 notes   
April 23, 2014   189 notes   
nexipsum:

revnews:

Homeless In The Name Of FIFA’s World Cuphttp://revolution-news.com/many-homeless-name-fifas-world-cup-evict-fifa-brazil/

Anything for the advancement of white agendas…

nexipsum:

revnews:

Homeless In The Name Of FIFA’s World Cup

http://revolution-news.com/many-homeless-name-fifas-world-cup-evict-fifa-brazil/

Anything for the advancement of white agendas…

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April 23, 2014   13 notes   
saveplanetearth:

Happening right now in Washington DC! No to Keystone XL pipeline! @ Reject & Protect

saveplanetearth:

Happening right now in Washington DC! No to Keystone XL pipeline! @ Reject & Protect

April 23, 2014   6,084 notes   

“ In social justice, there’s this absurd meme (that I’ve been guilty of myself) is that we are the “voice for the voiceless,” but that’s not right. The oppressed are not voiceless – they’re just not being listened to. ”

Dianna Anderson, of Be the Change, at Rachel Held Evans’ “Ask a Feminist” (via emm-in-sem)

Gonna print this out and stick it on my mirror. Keep that shit in check.

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Or that one is “GIVING” a voice to a marginalized person. Which is very problematic as well. Having a voice is different to not being heard.

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And always remember that our ‘voices’ are not always spoken word, there are many ways to communicate and they should all be respected

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April 23, 2014   26,559 notes   

wocinsolidarity:

odinsblog:

#myNYPD

the OOP heard around the world

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